We’ve heard it a million times, the amount of abuse we tolerate is often equal to the amount of abuse we put on ourselves. I know that some people will disagree with that and that’s OK as it’s your choice to view yourself as a victim but it’s not one that I choose to take.
Remember how you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you. You really must love who you are or no one else will. You need to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
Please stop discrediting yourself for everything you aren’t and start giving yourself credit for everything that you are.
It’s really too easy to fall into the trap of being your own worst enemy. This is why it’s more important now more than ever to learn how to be your own best friend.
If you get used to telling yourself that you are unattractive, that you are destined to fail, and that you are not capable of performing in the world without someone holding your hand, then you will accept and feel most comfortable in relationships with people who reinforce these same negative beliefs.
Believe me, I know these are tough words to swallow. I know because I’m sharing what I’ve lived. You really do get what you settle for in this life. It’s important to give yourself a nice hard look in the mirror when you start to realize that the people you are surrounding yourself with are not “good” for you.
Are you good for you?
When you’re hanging out by yourself, notice how you talk to yourself.
Watch your thoughts.
Keep in mind that it is only ever our own thoughts that hurt us. It’s how we choose to think about things that causes us the most pain.
If I eavesdropped on your self-talk a minute ago, would I have heard statements that empower happiness, or statements that refute it?
Are you nice to yourself?
The bottom line is that your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever, ever have. So let me ask you this: When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a great job, or took you someplace special to celebrate one of your small, everyday victories, simply because they know you deserve it?
When was the last time that someone was YOU?
Be careful with your words, careless words clutter your mind and make you love yourself and life a little less.